I once had a client whose business brilliance outshone the stars of Harvard Business School. Yet she scorched everything she touched. Relationships turned rancid, projects were poisoned by punitive criticism, and her management style left associates embittered.
We met for lunch a couple times a year for much of the 90’s. Over time, my opinion of her zigzagged from an initial awe to distaste, and finally to pity. These facts emerged:
- She was an identical twin, younger by twenty minutes.
- She was an excellent musician but played only second chair violin, because her twin played first.
- She got an MBA from a top business school; but her sister became a surgeon.
- She brought her boyfriend home for Easter, and he fell in love with her twin.
A year later that former boyfriend married her identical twin sister.
What Lights Your Fire?
In the movie Chariots of Fire, someone asks Harold Abrams why he runs so fast. He says,
When that gun goes off, I raise my eyes and look down that corridor, 4 feet wide, with 10 lonely seconds to justify my whole existence.
Eric Liddle’s motivation is simpler: “When I run I feel God’s pleasure.”
Powerful people often appear indistinguishable from ordinary people—except they are fast, friendly, successful, or moral—but they may be energized by completely different superpowers.
Greatness and saint-ness are not matters of degrees of natural ability; they are matters of supernatural infusion. The “great” invest themselves in “great” endeavors, whereas great believers gravitate towards investing their hearts in God.
It is not a matter of activism versus mysticism, it’s a matter of God’s life in us. The human great go, whereas godly saints are sent. Extraordinary heroes draw attention to the person or plan (“Wasn’t Steve Jobs brilliant and isn’t this church-growth plan wise?”) whereas spiritual heroes are ordinary people who are made extraordinary by the life of God inside.
The worldly genius zigs. God calls us to zag.
Human Sweat
Believers are too easily vitalized by the sweat of human effort. When we worship worldly wisdom (the “Three Keys” to this and the “Seven Principles” of that) we make alliances with Egypt. We “go” when God calls us to “come.”
Our human plots hamstring God’s plans.
Recently those worldly mystics of mysteriously numbered methods have begun to prefix their magic potions with awe-inspiring modifiers. They are not longer “keys to success but: “Life-changing Keys,” “Mind-blowing Lessons,” and “Staggering Secrets.”
I wonder what their older siblings do.
Relational Fuel
Relationships empower us for good or ill. It is not our gifts that distinguish us nearly as much as the fuel that animates them. Some connections thrust us into rivalry, enmity, or despair, but there is another connection that supernaturally turns water into wine:
The most important aspect of Christianity is not the work we do, but the relationship we maintain and the surrounding influence and qualities produced by that relationship.
That is all God asks us to give our attention to.
(Oswald Chambers)
We too have an older sibling who out-performs us in every conceivable measure. But he doesn’t compete with us, he completes us.
The only fruit of our lives that matters is produced by the life of God in us.
Sam
Lloyd Portman
Sam,
Excellent content and perspectives as usual. You need to write another book with all these blogs as chapters as it would be an interesting and challenging Devotional. You always have that mature and genuine aspect to your truth telling which draws us into God’s heart. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
Blessings from down under.
Lloyd
Tom Nesler
We were born competitive, IMO. Birth order often affects us in unconscious ways. I would not have wanted to be those twin’s parents…:-( To untangle the connections of their lives and show each child that God made each one unique despite looking alike, being the same age, celebrating the same birth date, dressing the same…you name it.
To realize that we can’t do great things for God, but God can (if He Chooses) do great things through us, is a very freeing reality. Matthew 7:22-24 is a chilling reminder that our relationship to God is more important than our deeds for God.
Stephen Thompson
I’m sure the authors’s intentions were good, but his premise is wrong and application is worse.
Havs
Amen! This post is riveting – and what an incredible story to be able to lead in with! Crazy! After reading about the Minnesota Twins Study I am even more fascinated by the phenomena of identical twins and the similarities of their lives. Isn’t it a shame to see a person swallowed up by competition, especially with a sibling? They become a shadow of the person they might have been. Jesus showed us the attitude of the perfect sibling, who washed his brother’s feet and gave himself up for us. If our motivation comes from God to live and move and have our being in Him, the bonus is becoming a complete person, and not a shadow. Now if only I could teach my kids to wash each other’s feet!